Re: "if that makes any difference"

On Mon, Feb 28, 2005 at 02:56:48PM -0500, Sally Caves wrote:
> I'm right-handed but left-eyed, so that gives me mixed-brain dominance
Interesting.  I'm right-eyed but it's not really brain dominance; I just
have really bad vision in my left eye, and it's not fully correctible to
20/20 - apparently a leftover result from having lazy eye as a child,
althought the opthamologist says he doesn't see any of the usual
evidence of such a prior condition - only the uncorrectibility.

> I'm straight and I don't hate the bumper sticker because I actually do
> have best friends who are gay;
Well, sure, so do I, but that's not the point.  "Some of my best friends
are X" is the bigot's motto, and "straight but not narrow" sounds like a
kindred phrase, along with Seinfeld's "I'm not gay - Not That There's
Anything Wrong With That!"  The SBNN stickers just seem like the driver
is going out of their way to point out that they're not gay.  "Hey,
there's nothing wrong with being gay, but don't for a minute think that
*I'm* gay!  No, sir!  That'd be horrible if you thought that!"  If
you're concerned about people thinking you're gay, then the unavoidable
implication is that you think there *is* something wrong with it.

Want to show your support?  Great - put a pink triangle on your car.  If
someone sees it and thinks that you're (gasp) gay yourself, then . . .
SO WHAT?  I mean, If someone shows interest in me, regardless of their
sex, I make sure to let them know that I'm not available - happily
married, not polyamorous, yada.  But beyond that, it doesn't make one
whit of difference whether anyone thinks I'm gay or straight or whatever.

-Marcos

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