Re: CHAT: OT CHAT: Asperger's syndrome

On Fri, 23 Jun 2000 19:05:45 -0500 "Thomas R. Wier"
<artabanos@...> writes:
> Oh, certainly it can be annoying.  But when I meant analyzing
> people, I did
> not mean to imply that these analyses should always be voiced.
> Indeed,
> the improper voicing of analyses can be very destructive when you're
> dealing with the wrong people or at the wrong time. For example, if
> someone's
> having a nervous breakdown, it often helps *not* to talk to them
> about whatever's
> causing the breakdown, but about something they enjoy.  Unless that
> person's
> behavior seems like it will immanently harm either themselves or
> others (such as
> becoming suicidal, homicidal, or about to cause extreme mental
> anguish to others),
> often it should be saved for times when it is explicitly asked for.
> If the individual
> is wholly in denial about an issue, sometimes speaking about a
> third-party in an
> analogous situation and never mentioning the discussee's own problem
> in that
> context will start to ring bells in their minds.  If not, then one
> cannot always do
> something, except to be there as a friend.
>
> I'm sorry... I don't mean to speak ex cathedra or anything.  I'm not
> a trained
> psychologist, but these seem like common-sensical things to do.
>
> ======================================
> Tom Wier <artabanos@...>
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> "Cogito ergo sum, sed credo ergo ero."
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Well, actually, when i had my nervous breakdown what helped was when the
person who came over to help me went right to the point of what caused
it.  But my problem is that i overanalyze myself - like if i want to do
something, i'll think "maybe i'm just wanting to do that because i have
some kind of psychological problem" which then becomes "of course i have
a psychological problem, i'm constantly second-guessing and overanalyzing
myself!" and then "but what does that say about this urge?" and becomes
an endless cycle.


-Stephen (Steg)
 "survival is insufficient."