Re: OT: Coming Out (was: Re: OT: Re: What? the clean-shaven outnumber the bearded?)

[dZoU r/oUt]:
> Well, I would hope that people assume I'm straight...I am. ;-)
Not that they should assume you're gay.  I was just saying that
they shouldn't assume anything until they know.  It's a small point,
albeit one that I've stuck my teeth over many times.  If people
didn't assume heterosexuality automatically, we wouldn't have
to "come out.

> So...at your old school, did you get any trouble?  I don't know about your
> side of the pond, but over here, children seem to be pretty homophobic at
> times...
Well, it was private, so it was different, but in hindsight it might have
been
better for everyone if I'd had more time to think before I came out.  That
just
isn't usually my way (I always talk everything through till it's dead, I'm
that
kind of extrovert).  Thinking about coming out age:  when there was less of
an open gay community people knew themselves and their sexuallity more
before they exposed it.  With me, because it was not quite as socially
inacceptable
(though it was certainly among some), I ended up making straight boys
who weren't that firm in their own sexuality nervous, because I didn't know
how to handle attraction.

Jake

By the way, should this be off-list.  It seems now more like a life story
than
a general thread.  Or should I post at all on this topic?

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