Re: OT: Coming Out (was: Re: OT: Re: What? the clean-shavenoutnumber the bearded?)

Stone Gordonssen wrote:

>> Well, isn't that a matter of assuming the average?  I would assume a
>> random person was heterosexual (if I were to think about their sexuality
>> at all), but that doesn't mean I'm homophobic.  I have several gay
>> friends, and it doesn't bother me at all.
>
>
> For me, I wonder what this assumption achieves. As long as someone
> treats me
> as an equal, what difference should it make unless there's sexual
> attraction
> on one part of the other, which we should be civilized enough to be
> able to
> say "no, thank you". I'm gay, but women occassionally hit on me.
Without these last sentences, this is an argument in favor of Stone,
with them, it's against, which is impressive. Not that they're
especially good arguments, I just hope the point gets through. Knowing
my history in this thread, it probably won't though :)

Have you noticed how advertisers like using couples? That's an
assumption. But have you noticed that the vast majority of them are one
guy, one girl, and whenever it's not, it's either lesbians (because of
the male fantasy) or two guys who might be gay, or might be friends.
This assumption (theoretically at least) should help them sell more.

Or the way straight guys will sometimes see a good-looking girl and look
at you to pass a message ('how about her?') along? In that case, they'd
almost certainly be your friend, but how about if you've never felt the
need to tell them because you don't think being gay really matters? But
how many of these people know that they're making an assumption? They're
mostly doing it to feel included.

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Tristan                  <kesuari@...>