OT: Asking for help (was Re: OT: "Science is interesting; if you don't agree, you can fuck off.")
|From:||Herman Miller <hmiller@...>|
|Date:||Thursday, November 15, 2007, 5:41|
Mark J. Reed wrote:
> I must agree that one shouldn't always wait to be asked for help. And
> therein lies the rub, since deciding whether or not someone who is not
> asking for help needs it anyway is wholly dependent on the beliefs of
> the prospective helper. To go back to the religion thing: if you
> truly believe that everyone who doesn't share your faith is going to
> be damned for all eternity, how can you in good conscience *not*
> On 11/14/07, caeruleancentaur <caeruleancentaur@...> wrote:
>>> Gary Shannon <fiziwig@...> wrote:
>>> Simple qualifier: "Stay out of other people's business UNLESS INVITED
>>> TO BECOME INVOLVED." Thus people asking for help can find help and
>>> people wanting to be left alone can be left alone.
>> I don't find that qualifier so simple. I must assume that you are not
>> limiting this invitation to a verbal one. I can think of many
>> situations where a person is in trouble and is not able to ask for help
>> in words.
Now this seems like an interesting conculture topic. In particular, the
whole "stay out of other people's business unless invited to become
involved" seems very much like a Zireen attitude to life. It works for
them, but then, they're not human, and their sensitivity to others'
emotions is more finely developed.