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Re: CHAT: OT CHAT: Asperger's syndrome

From:Robert Hailman <robert@...>
Date:Wednesday, June 28, 2000, 5:01
Barry Garcia wrote:
> > CONLANG@LISTSERV.BROWN.EDU writes: > >As far as this goes, I tend to feel relatively few emotions most of the > >time, and those that I do feel tend to be relatively mild, except for > >the odd incredibly intense emotions, which tend to lean towards the > >anger side of the spectrum. I can't claim to feel like two people at > >times, emotion-wise. > > I can never stay angry at something for a long time. I hold no grudges, > nor do I despise people for maybe more than a day. Also, it's hard for me
I don't hold grudges, or stay angry for long periods of time, but I do get phenominally angry, often right to or beyond the point of violence, for very, very brief periods of time, often less than a minute or so. After that, I'm perfectly fine, although I do recall what happened.
> to get emotional over people I really dont know well. For instance, on a > message board I visit, one of them had died. Everyone in the chatroom the > night it was found out were in tears, shocked, upset, but I didnt feel > much of anything. Sure, i felt sad for the family, but i didnt feel so sad > an upset that it brought me to tears. However, i can feel emotions but > they never get really intense for me >
Similar things here, I feel relatively mildemotions regarding people I don't know well, but I fully understand the emotions that others are feeling. For I while I couldn't understand why *I* didn't feel intense sadness and such in situations where others did, but I've come to accept it as a matter of course. The onlytime I've come to tears due to sadness that I can recall was when my grandfather on my father's side passed away, and even then not until I saw my father, who was obviously much more shaken by his death than I was, which was several hours after I had heard the news.
> I talked with another friend and he too felt the same way. We of course > didnt say anything because we'd have probably been seen as uncaring, > distant, and cold. >
This is a problem I have to face too, so I often say nothing or I am quietly supportive when someone I know tells me about a tragedy regarding someone I don't know, whether I know the person over the Internet or in the real world. If I were to be blunt and say exactly what I was feeling, people would be offended by my percieved indifferenec. -- Robert