Re: CHAT: OT CHAT: Asperger's syndrome

Barry Garcia wrote:
>
> CONLANG@LISTSERV.BROWN.EDU writes:
> >As far as this goes, I tend to feel relatively few emotions most of the
> >time, and those that I do feel tend to be relatively mild, except for
> >the odd incredibly intense emotions, which tend to lean towards the
> >anger side of the spectrum. I can't claim to feel like two people at
> >times, emotion-wise.
>
> I can never stay angry at something for a long time. I hold no grudges,
> nor do I despise people for maybe more than a day. Also, it's hard for me
I don't hold grudges, or stay angry for long periods of time, but I do
get phenominally angry, often right to or beyond the point of violence,
for very, very brief periods of time, often less than a minute or so.
After that, I'm perfectly fine, although I do recall what happened.

> to get emotional over people I really dont know well. For instance, on a
> message board I visit, one of them had died. Everyone in the chatroom the
> night it was found out were in tears, shocked, upset, but I didnt feel
> much of anything. Sure, i felt sad for the family, but i didnt feel so sad
> an upset that it brought me to tears. However, i can feel emotions but
> they never get really intense for me
>
Similar things here, I feel relatively mildemotions regarding people I
don't know well, but I fully understand the emotions that others are
feeling. For I while I couldn't understand why *I* didn't feel intense
sadness and such in situations where others did, but I've come to accept
it as a matter of course. The onlytime I've come to tears due to sadness
that I can recall was when my grandfather on my father's side passed
away, and even then not until I saw my father, who was obviously much
more shaken by his death than I was, which was several hours after I had
heard the news.

> I talked with another friend and he too felt the same way. We of course
> didnt say anything because we'd have probably been seen as uncaring,
> distant, and cold.
>
This is a problem I have to face too, so I often say nothing or I am
quietly supportive when someone I know tells me about a tragedy
regarding someone I don't know, whether I know the person over the
Internet or in the real world. If I were to be blunt and say exactly
what I was feeling, people would be offended by my percieved
indifferenec.

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Robert